After Divorce, You Can Implement The Lessons You Did Not Learn Until It Was Too Late To Save Your Marriage

If you know divorced couples who seem to get along so well that you wonder why they did not stay married to each other, it is not just your imagination. Some people do get along well with their former spouses and the relatives of their former spouses. To understand why, consider the old saying about how good fences make good neighbors. Living under the same roof with someone is stressful, especially when it means sharing finances and being jointly responsible for children’s baths, dentist appointments, and parent-teacher conferences. Years after your divorce, you may still feel angry and hurt about the way your ex-spouse treated you during your marriage. You might also regret not doing things that, in retrospect, seem like they could have saved your marriage. What you don’t see, when you watch former spouses interact harmoniously with each other, is the framework that their divorce agreement has set for them to interact with each other peacefully. You might find that, several years after your divorce, dealing with your ex-spouse might be easier than you imagined, even though it seems impossible now. First, you need a fair property division and a tolerable parenting plan. To achieve those things and get started on the path to less stressful family relationships, contact a Birmingham divorce lawyer.

Setting Boundaries About Time and Money

Court-ordered parenting plans require even the most disorganized people to manage time. If the parenting plan says your ex must pick up the children on Friday afternoon and return them on Sunday evening, but he habitually picks them up on Saturday afternoon and returns them on Sunday evening, then you have grounds to petition the court to modify the child support order to reflect the fact that you are responsible for your children six nights out of the week. The parenting plan also makes you decide holiday plans well in advance. If the parenting plan says that the children are with you on Thanksgiving and with your ex on Black Friday, then your in-laws do not have the right to change your plans to reflect the dates for which they found affordable plane tickets.

Telling Your Ex the Things That Your Ex Has a Right to Know, but Otherwise Staying Out of Each Other’s Business

When you are divorced, anything that you say to your ex-spouse is potential evidence that could be used against you in litigation to modify your parenting plan. That means no abusive language and no withholding information that your ex would need to participate meaningfully in parenting decisions. KIND, which stands for kid-centered, informative, nice, and direct, should be your guideline in dealing with your ex while co-parenting.

Contact Peeples Law About Building Healthy Family Relationships After Divorce

A Birmingham family law attorney can help you reach a fair agreement regarding property division and co-parenting.  Contact Peeples Law in Birmingham, Alabama today to schedule a consultation.

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