Author Archives: Jay Butchko
How To Get Through A High Conflict Divorce Without Breaking The Bank
Parenting requires feats of emotional maturity that you never thought possible. When you have a child, it is your responsibility to model the behaviors that you want your children to display. That means being respectful when telling someone what is bothering you. It also means being gracious when things don’t go your way. This… Read More »
Real Estate Sales During Or After The Divorce
If you and your spouse are not at an impasse about which of you will keep the marital home after your divorce becomes final, you have avoided the worst-case scenario. Even if you agree about which spouse, if either, keeps the house, implementing your plan about transferring it from joint ownership to its new… Read More »
Will Artificial Intelligence Make Your Divorce Uglier?
Generative artificial intelligence is the latest polarizing issue. Its strongest supporters will tell you that AI is better than a human partner. It answers your questions in as much or as little detail as you ask instead of changing the subject, and it does not get offended when you pause it or fast forward…. Read More »
Expert Witnesses In Alabama Divorce Cases
When a case goes to trial, it means that two parties want a judge or jury to decide which party’s interpretation of events is correct. Therefore, each side presents evidence, and sometimes they summon witnesses. The lawyer representing the party that summoned the witness asks him or her questions, hoping that the answers the… Read More »
Keeping The Peace About Child Support
In the best-case scenario, co-parenting with your ex-spouse can make you more emotionally mature and improve your relationships with your children, your ex-spouse, and others in your life. Some divorced parents say that, if they had learned the conflict management skills they know now when they first became parents, they would have been able… Read More »
Daycare Costs, Financial Hardship, And Child Support: A Perfect Storm For Conflict
Even for married couples, daycare is a frequent source of conflict. The children’s daycare is always in a location that is inconvenient relative to at least one parent’s work. When one parent wants to leave the workforce or to pressure the other into leaving the workforce, they often cite the costs of daycare as… Read More »
Are Divorce Parties Tacky?
If there is one thing women in Alabama do well, it is female-centric festivities. The debutante ball may be a historical relic, but no one does sorority rush or bachelorette parties quite like Alabama. Nearly every Southern sorority girl eventually ends up with a fairytale wedding, but even Southern Belles eventually find out that… Read More »
Are Assets That You Acquire While Your Divorce Is Pending Marital Property?
From your perspective, getting divorced is about finding a new normal, recovering from a broken heart, and finding a way to live your best life with limited resources. From the court’s perspective, though, divorce is the dissolution of an economic partnership. Its goal is to divide the property that the couple owned when the… Read More »
Alimony In Gross
When people hear the word “alimony,” they often think about one former spouse sending the other a check every month, reopening the resentments that led the couple to divorce in the first place. Most likely, though, you will not have to pay alimony for as long as you think you will. Even if your… Read More »
What Happens If You Encounter A Non-Marital Financial Hardship In The Middle Of Your Divorce?
Rock bottom is a moving target. People who have been divorced for a long time tend to look at the day they filed for divorce as a turning point; after that, things gradually got better. They have the advantage of hindsight, though. While your divorce is pending, it is painfully obvious that life has… Read More »