How To Make Room In Your Life For A New Normal After Your Divorce

Your worst days while your divorce is pending and soon after it becomes final can easily be worse than your worst days while you were unhappily married. Finding a new normal is, to some extent, a matter of patience, but your actions and attitude matter, too. Obviously, being stuck in the past, constantly picking fights with your ex, and clinging to hope that you and your ex will get back together make things worse. Even if anger and sadness are at the forefront of your feelings, there are things you can do to make the time pass more quickly until your divorce is a part of your past with which you have made peace, and to a time when you will have happy memories of being newly single. A fair divorce settlement and well-organized parenting plan also help you adjust to a new normal more quickly. For help making sense of the quantitative and qualitative aspects of how your life will be after divorce, contact a Birmingham divorce lawyer.

You Get to Decide How Much to Tell Other People About Your Divorce

One of the most stressful parts of divorce is all the intrusive questions you get from everyone in your life, from close relatives to casual acquaintances. Remember that you have the final say about who is entitled to how much information. With close friends who truly care, you can tell them about all the dominos that fell to ruin your relationship with your ex, and how both parties bear responsibility for the breakdown of the marriage. With everyone else, you have the right to say, “None of your business,” or some more polite version thereof. It is more practical to give a practiced answer, which can vary in candor from, “We grew apart,” to, “I didn’t figure out how to set boundaries with my parents and siblings until it was too late to save my marriage.”

If You Can’t Afford Our Family Wizard, You Can Always Count on BIFF

You don’t have to be friends with your ex. If you and your ex-spouse can eventually rewrite your relationship as friendship, this is a victory, but it doesn’t happen to everyone. For now, concentrate on keeping the peace so you can successfully co-parent, and don’t open up old wounds. Some co-parents use co-parenting apps like Our Family Wizard. If you can’t afford these, then rely on yourself to keep your communications with your ex brief, informative, friendly, and firm (BIFF), and preferably by text message.

Make Time for Old and New Friends

The best thing about divorce is that your choice of friends is now completely up to you. Reconnect with your old buddies that your ex never liked. Pursue your own personal and professional interests and meet new friends along the way.

Contact Peeples Law About Getting to the Silver Lining After Divorce

A Birmingham family law attorney can help you if you are getting divorced and need help envisioning how bright your future can be.  Contact Peeples Law in Birmingham, Alabama today to schedule a consultation.

Source:

msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/relationships/i-m-a-divorce-coach-and-these-are-the-7-things-that-actually-help-people-move-on-post-split/ar-AA1IKgWO?ocid=msedgntp&pc=ACTS&cvid=69405a43cddc4a9c993a1581f38b0730&ei=40