Are Divorce Parties Tacky?

If there is one thing women in Alabama do well, it is female-centric festivities. The debutante ball may be a historical relic, but no one does sorority rush or bachelorette parties quite like Alabama. Nearly every Southern sorority girl eventually ends up with a fairytale wedding, but even Southern Belles eventually find out that life is not a fairytale. Some newly single ladies celebrate their divorce with a party that rivals the honoree’s bachelorette party in its level of revelry. Here in Alabama, it is even feasible to choose the Disney theme parks as the location for your divorce party. If you are recently divorced, then you are intimately familiar with the feeling that what you show the world does not match what you feel inside. Getting out of a marriage where you and your spouse eventually became enemies is a relief, but losing your marriage to the father of your children and your familial connection to your in-laws does not feel like a win, and neither does parting with a substantial portion of your marital property. Divorce parties are not for everyone. The best person to decide how you feel about your divorce is you, but the best person to help you think clearly about finding a financial new normal after divorce is a Birmingham divorce lawyer.

It Isn’t Just Your Imagination That Getting Divorced Doesn’t Feel Like a Celebration

Even if it was your choice to get a divorce instead of staying in a marriage where trust and forgiveness had disappeared, divorce still feels like a loss. Family gatherings feel less complete. If you start dating someone new, then introducing your new partner to your children and meeting your partner’s children is exponentially harder than when you and your ex-spouse met each other’s parents. You don’t even want to think about dating someone new now, though. You just want your children to have as normal a day today as possible, even though you are still exhausted from trying to accomplish the same goal yesterday.

Self-Acceptance Is the Grand Prize for Divorced People

If there is a bright side to divorce, it is that it is no longer possible to pretend that anyone is perfect. Now you can ask your friends and family to help with childcare or to keep you company on the holidays, when you were too embarrassed to ask before. You can also be proud of the modest lifestyle you can afford with the job you got after your divorce, instead of constantly keeping up with the Joneses and posting on social media about your fabulous stay at home mother lifestyle, even while the debts piled up. You can focus on being a good role model for your children by being a source of stability for them and by making every reasonable effort to have a peaceful co-parenting relationship with your ex-spouse.

Contact Peeples Law About the Parts of Divorce That Aren’t Fun

A Birmingham family law attorney can help you cope with the emotional stress of divorce by focusing on the new normal you can eventually build.  Contact Peeples Law in Birmingham, Alabama today to schedule a consultation.

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