Three Phases Of Divorce
If it is your first full season after filing for divorce, your family and friends will probably keep telling you that you will feel a lot better at this time next year. They are correct, but the emotions surrounding divorce are a lot more complicated than that. You have probably heard a long-divorced relative mention how, even now, some aspect of her life would be very different if it weren’t for her ex-husband. If you see former spouses who still attend family gatherings together with their adult children, this peaceful relationship was probably many years in the making. There is no right or wrong way to feel about your divorce or your ex-spouse at any point in the divorce process or even after your divorce is finalized, but a Birmingham divorce lawyer can help you apply the law to avoid unnecessary delays and to put you on a path to rebuilding your financial stability.
The “Maybe We Can Work It Out” Phase
During a divorce case, or even after the divorce becomes final, former spouses might hold onto the hope that the couple will eventually reconcile. It is normal to still feel attached to the person who was your closest family member for so many years, especially if you have children together. Some divorced couples eventually maintain a friendly or familial relationship, and a very small number even remarry their former spouses. This may or may not happen to you, but it does not mean that you should accept all the requests in your spouse’s divorce petition in the interest of winning your spouse’s heart.
The Bitterness Phase
Even after you are legally single, and even if your ex-spouse isn’t doing everything possible to get on your nerves, divorce causes many annoyances, great and small. You might have hated your ex-wife’s laugh and her reality TV habit, but now that she is gone, there is no one to fold the laundry but you. You might not miss your ex-husband’s snoring or his temper, but now that you are divorced, your income has to pay all the bills, leaving you very little money left over for discretionary spending.
The Indifference Phase
It may sound impossible now, but there will eventually come a time when your divorce no longer affects your daily life. The bankruptcy filing you initiated after your divorce became final will come and go; you will meet new friends, and perhaps even keep up with some of the same friends you and your spouse met together. This may not happen until long after you have remarried and your children have grown up, but it will eventually happen. In other words, as painful as it is now, you will eventually make peace with your divorce.
Contact Peeples Law About Accomplishing Your Divorce Quickly, So You Can Heal Slowly
A Birmingham family law attorney can help you focus on the legal and financial aspects of your divorce, despite all the emotional turmoil you are feeling. Contact Peeples Law today to schedule a consultation.