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Gray Divorce After A Tumultuous Marriage


People over the age of 50 account for the fastest growing share of divorce filings, but the only thing that all of these couples have in common is that all of them are on the mailing list of the AARP.  The usual narrative about gray divorce that you see on celebrity news websites and in the personal finance genre is that, after a couple’s youngest child grows up and moves out of the house, the parties realize that they have grown apart over the years and have little in common.  Since they both want to divorce, they are able to discuss many aspects of their divorce calmly.  Conflicts about details of property division inevitably arise, but the parties can eventually work things out during mediation.  It is easier if both parties have held full-time employment through most of the marriage, but if the wife was a stay-at-home mother, the parties have realistic expectations about her need for a sizable share of the marital property and her need to return to the workforce.  This is only the cleaned-up media image of gray divorce; not everyone is a middle-class version of Bill and Melinda Gates.  Some people’s divorces include extramarital affairs, years-long lies about money, allegations of domestic violence, and all kinds of unpleasant things that make it difficult, if not impossible, for the couple to work out all of the issues of their divorce in mediation.  A Birmingham divorce lawyer can help you if you are going through a messy gray divorce.

When Your Spouse Walks Out on a Long Marriage and Leaves a Mess

A divorce court in alimony presides over no fewer than three hearings about the same couple’s pendente lite alimony; in other words, they went to court three times just about paying the bills while the divorce was pending, without even getting to the issue of finalizing the divorce.  The couple were married for 24 years; they got married when they were both 29 and filed for divorce when they were 53.  They did not have children together.

The parties lived in nine different houses during their marriage, moving from New York to Oklahoma to Louisiana to Alabama; the reason for the interstate moves was the husband’s work.  According to the wife, the husband lost several jobs over the course of their marriage due to interpersonal conflicts with coworkers.  Although both spouses had bachelor’s degrees, the wife had never held full-time employment during the marriage.  The husband resented the wife’s financial dependence on him, but the wife said that the husband’s frequent job-related moves and her chronic pain due to back and neck problems and plantar fasciitis prevented her from working full-time.  Although the parties acknowledged that their relationship had broken down over time, the wife testified that her husband had taken her completely by surprise when he asked for a divorce when she returned from traveling to visit a friend who was dying.

Contact Peeples Law About Your Gray Divorce

A Birmingham family law attorney can help you if your spouse has not matured emotionally with age.  Contact Peeples Law today to schedule a consultation.



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