Author Archives: Jay Butchko
Is Alternating Weeks Of Parenting Time Financially Sustainable?
Many families sign parenting plans with alternating weeks, but most of them modify them to a different co-parenting schedule at some point before the children reach adulthood. Parents usually commit to this co-parenting schedule on their initiative, rather than a judge choosing it. It is one of the surest ways to ensure that the… Read More »
Divorce Is A Slow Road To A New Normal
The only thing worse than being unhappily married and feeling like no one understands you is being recently divorced and feeling that no one understands you. At least, when you are unhappily married, you have one imperfect partner instead of potentially facing down an endless succession of unrequited crushes who will all ultimately reject… Read More »
The Quarter Life Crisis Divorce
The first quarter century of a person’s life tends to attract the greatest amount of attention from novelists, poets, and filmmakers, regardless of the artists’ ages or the era in which they are working. Finding one’s place in the world as a young adult is a timeless theme. Despite this, social conditions change from… Read More »
What’s With Alabama’s High Divorce Rate?
Divorce messes with your perception of yourself and others. This is partially because it makes you a magnet for other people’s unsolicited opinions and advice. If you are the only person in your extended family group to divorce, you might feel like divorce is something that has only ever happened to you, and this… Read More »
Hard Truths And Silver Linings About Divorce
Going through a divorce can make you feel all kinds of conflicting emotions. Sometimes you feel like everything in your life is crumbling, or that everything you were sure you believed turned out to be a lie. The next minute you might feel hope and self-confidence like you have never felt before. Co-parenting is… Read More »
Can You Sue Your Ex’s Mistress For Ruining Your Marriage?
You know you are caught up in an unhealthy family dynamic when, every time someone is upset, they point fingers of blame at multiple people as each one tries to deflect the blame; this is a dynamic where people do not assume responsibility for their own actions. Many marriages have failed to survive situations… Read More »
No One Gets Rich From Rehabilitative Alimony
No matter how long a couple was married, the purpose of divorce is to dissolve their financial entanglements with each other. The longer the marriage lasted, the more complicated this process is. If the marriage was brief, the divorce court can simply untangle their financial partnership to make it seem like the marriage had… Read More »
Repaying Debts Leftover From Your Marriage
When a couple gets a divorce, the family court must divide not only their marital property, but also their marital debts. Few families are debt free, and getting out of debt is an even greater challenge than resolving conflicts with your spouse, so the lucky few people who are debt free are unlikely to… Read More »
Parental Alienation In Alabama Family Law Cases
If you are going through a divorce or have separated from a partner with whom you have children, the worst of the dark fears that flood your mind during the moments when you are alone is that you will lose contact with your children. It is probably an unfounded fear; the parents and children… Read More »
How To Get Through A High Conflict Divorce Without Breaking The Bank
Parenting requires feats of emotional maturity that you never thought possible. When you have a child, it is your responsibility to model the behaviors that you want your children to display. That means being respectful when telling someone what is bothering you. It also means being gracious when things don’t go your way. This… Read More »